Let's be honest, co-parenting is hard for most people. For me co-parenting is beyond hard. I find myself repeatedly faced with circumstances I have been through as a child of divorce at only 7-years old. Reliving my past, while thinking of my son's future. My son is much younger than I was and wrapping his mind around what is really going on with visitation I can't imagine is easy. I have done a crazy amount of work to educate myself on not only parenting, but parenting separately. Now, if you are looking for information online about parenting after divorcing you will find it everywhere. If you are looking for information online about parenting where the parents have never been together, GOOD LUCK.
Today, we are a family of 5! Yes 5. My son now has two sisters. I met an amazing man at work when my son was 6 months old. I was giddy with love from the first moment I seen him. I have never been unable to speak to someone, but all I could do was laugh and turn red when he was near. He has been a blessing, we have two beautiful daughters together and he accepts my son as his own. The adventure that lead me to my forever made me to woman he needs me to be and he is the man I have always needed by my side. It is my hope to protect, support and educate our girls as well as finding a balance in parenting with my son's dad.
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Why is this different? My son has never had a vision of a loving relationship between his dad and I, because we have never been together. My son only knows my daughters father as his primary, everyday father figure, which is where he has grown to see a loving and respectful relationship. In this mix of things, I know I need to sort my feelings from my childhood and support my son with what worked for me growing up. By figuring out what didn't work I can hopefully apply a better situation for Holden to thrive overall. I feel the important part here is to make sure I am not taking away a learning experience. There may have been some bad things that happened in my childhood that could have been done better, but I grew because of those circumstances. I don't want to take those moments away from Holden either, I want to support him through those times.
WHY DEAR MOM WORKING
I had read a book called, "Spark by Angie Morgan." Reading this book I took SO MANY notes, but a key point that screams to me daily is, "ARE YOU A MOM WORKING OR A WORKING MOM?" I am the mom that appreciates sending my children to daycare, working and adult interaction. All hail stay at home moms, but it's not for me. I also believe that my children benefit from the structure and learning environment at daycare. Although being a stay at home mom isn't part of my current lifestyle, my kids will always come first. I am a mom working. Dear mom working....